This is a real mirror of our life too. Mental health issues, a long term relationship breakup and mild neurodivergence were the reasons for our eldest returning home. It’s been challenging at times but overall, it’s been positive. My main barrier to having an epic retirement since is the amount of ‘stuff’ throughout the house, garage & shed. While engaging a decluttering expert is one solution, it’s not a long term one. Multiple adult conversations have been had. Solutions?
The other side of the coin - both of our adult children live at home. One (29) with her partner, the other (36) with his wife and 2 young children (2yo & 5yo). We are fortunate in that we all have separate accommodation on a couple of acres. Both are employed and own their own houses and rent them out. We travel for about 6 months of the year so there is always someone to look after the house and dogs. Whilst the situation may not work for everyone, we wouldn’t have it any other way. Just another point of view.
Yes, I can totally relate, our son 29 this April came home 4 years ago for 3 weeks and is still with us. He had a work accident in 2015 and suffers PSD and many health/mental and physical issues. He broke both hips, a horrific injury, but he has never really healed from this. We are navigating as best we can. But he needs help, setting the boundaries are hard. This year he finally got a part time maintenance job at his old primary school, this is the longest he's been in work, so fingers crossed. 🙏🤞🤞
Thank you for writing this - it's very encouraging and validating when the emotional and financial aspects of being parents of neurodivergent kids is included in these kinds of discussions
This is a real mirror of our life too. Mental health issues, a long term relationship breakup and mild neurodivergence were the reasons for our eldest returning home. It’s been challenging at times but overall, it’s been positive. My main barrier to having an epic retirement since is the amount of ‘stuff’ throughout the house, garage & shed. While engaging a decluttering expert is one solution, it’s not a long term one. Multiple adult conversations have been had. Solutions?
The other side of the coin - both of our adult children live at home. One (29) with her partner, the other (36) with his wife and 2 young children (2yo & 5yo). We are fortunate in that we all have separate accommodation on a couple of acres. Both are employed and own their own houses and rent them out. We travel for about 6 months of the year so there is always someone to look after the house and dogs. Whilst the situation may not work for everyone, we wouldn’t have it any other way. Just another point of view.
Yes, I can totally relate, our son 29 this April came home 4 years ago for 3 weeks and is still with us. He had a work accident in 2015 and suffers PSD and many health/mental and physical issues. He broke both hips, a horrific injury, but he has never really healed from this. We are navigating as best we can. But he needs help, setting the boundaries are hard. This year he finally got a part time maintenance job at his old primary school, this is the longest he's been in work, so fingers crossed. 🙏🤞🤞
Thank you for writing this - it's very encouraging and validating when the emotional and financial aspects of being parents of neurodivergent kids is included in these kinds of discussions
Panic not Panick. 😊
Very relevant and undiscussed
Ian
Some very pertinent comments - the ball game has changed for younger people
Thanks for highlighting these issues